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katisconfused replied to your post “I think Marvel needs to reassess its definition of “unexpected” …”

there is a serious fucking issue if the illegal version of your product ends up being higher quality than the paid version

Yes. If pirating didn’t make me jumpy with the whole torrent thing a few years ago, and if the files didn’t add to my disorganization I’d just go back to that honestly. I also miss the reader Marvel’s site had a few years ago. On top of not having these errors, the pages seemed to load better.

Comixology’s reader is mostly good, and actually keeps track of where you left off. But that requires for paying for individual comics and dear god I can’t afford to do that. So that mostly gets reserved for newer things.

The other option is buying the ebook version of comics, which is what I tend to do with certain older things anyway. It also keeps my place and doesn’t cost as much as spending $3-$4 a comic.

But considering I read enough comics in a day lately that I deemed it worth buying the year sub again after a year without it, all of these options are somehow less exhausting than hunting down files for ever random thing I find myself in the mood for reading anyway. (And I already gave them the money, so…)

Posted at 9:07 PM on Sep 18, 2014 with 0 notes #katisconfused #little alien replies #I accidentally went on a #rant #idek how that happened

I would really love more representation of adhd that doesn’t treat it as a magical gift. Not just in the literal sense, but having it treated as some gift metaphorically gets old too. Even as I understand that it is a gift for some people, and even as I can admit that sometimes it has upsides to me, it’d be nice to see adhd represented in such a way that the person is actually legitimately struggling to function by societal standards.

Because it’s rare enough to see adhd represented, and even inside of fandom meta I’ve seen it’s often “I think this character has adhd because (insert mostly positive points here).”

I get that people want to see their good points of themselves represented, but I’m a terribly negative person and it’d be nice to see the struggles addressed more.

Sure, hyperfocusing on an important project and getting things done is good, but there can be more negatives than “forgot to eat/sleep” and “hyperfocusing on something useless but fun.” Sometimes I just stare into space for twenty minutes or hyperfocus on something that’s completely useless and not even enjoyable. I do these things and I can’t even tell you why.

I know we have like negative amounts of representation already, but the fact that it never seems to represent life as I experience it makes it more disheartening for me, and I’m sure I’m not the only one that feels that way.

Posted at 9:55 AM on Sep 17, 2014 with 100 notes #adhd #actually adhd #rant #little alien life shit #representation

imwithbojack said: “I think ADHD is a gift. We are not disabled just different. We think an operate different and that is our gift.”


actuallyadhd:

That’s awesome that you don’t find your ADHD disabling!

I do, and so do lots of other people. We have extreme difficulty doing things that we want or need to do in order to have good lives. That’s a disability.

However, ADHD affects everyone differently, which means that two people with the same diagnosis will have different symptoms and experience the world differently. They’ll have different difficulties and different abilities, and that’s actually really interesting and something to celebrate.

-J

I think it’s really important for the person who sent this ask, and anyone else who thinks this way, to step back and remember that your experience are your experiences alone. While some people may have common experiences, they won’t ever match up perfectly. Basically, like actuallyadhd pointed out, adhd — and literally everything in life — affects everyone differently.

And I honestly find it painfully insulting when people say “We are not disabled” when referring to people with adhd as a whole. Maybe the asker isn’t, and a lot of people aren’t, but as someone who cannot function on a level that society expects me too because I am constantly tripping over my own brain, “We are not disabled” to me feels like “I’m fine so it can’t be adhd that’s making you unable to function. You are not trying hard enough.”

Maybe I’m taking this a bit more personally than I should, but I know I’m not the only one that feels this way. Having adhd doesn’t automatically make you disabled, but never try to claim that “we” as a group are not disabled by our disorder just because some of us aren’t.

Posted at 9:45 AM on Sep 17, 2014 with 38 notes Reblogged Via: actuallyadhd OP: actuallyadhd
#adhd #rant #so tired of people saying 'it's a gift' #the good of this disorder does not outweigh the bad when you can't even do normal every day shit okay

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destroyallnerds:

alexandrakollontai:

nintendo6664:

betaorionid:

cublings:

uvwmaps:

social justice

this post is shit and creative freedom doesnt mean you get to be a racist,sexist,transphobic  asshole lol 

"creative freedom" wow yeah the same cishet white neurotypical people in every piece of media ever is so creative and realistic right.  (sarcasm) 

hey op what the fuck is your ailment

are those fucking swastikas

yeah

cuz, you know,

wanting equal representation in modern media is just as bad as killing millions of people

These are potentially the most impressive, over the top strawpeople I have ever seen. I don’t think I’ve even seen such obvious strawpeople in comics about strawpeople, that is how impressive this is.

I’m also always really amazed how often people cry about “creative freedoms” as if creating the same boring characters over and over is creative and adding diversity to a thing is somehow less creative. Not to mention that no one is going to stop you from doing those things, but your “creative” freedoms don’t mean people can’t criticize the lack of creativity.

Anyway, literally none of this is even happening. Make and consume whatever media you like, just don’t assume it is above criticism. Media that “sjws” like isn’t above criticism either. Why do so many people treat it like issues are ever black and white instead of actually, I don’t know, looking critically at the discussions?

Posted at 5:35 PM on Sep 16, 2014 with 2,151 notes Reblogged Via: posteriorsteak OP: uvwmaps
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#nazis / #...kind of? #plz be trolling #rant #now I'm sad because my boobs are too big for me to ever become a fictional character :c #damn you strawfictionpolice

bittersnurr:

madeofpatterns:

animafantome:

madeofpatterns:

Drug restrictions are not caused by drug abusers.

If you doubt this, consider why alcohol is easy to obtain legally.

Tell this to the state of Kentucky, where my mom struggles to get the pain meds she needs because the state has come down hard in a shitty, misguided attempt to curb drug abuse. This has nothing to do with alcohol.

That’s the fault of the politicians who are making those choices. Not the fault of addicts.

Yeah that is not looking at the big picture

What happens is this, they started restricting the drugs, so more people with valid need couldn’t get it.

So what do you do if no one will give you painkillers legally and you are in so much pain you can’t function?

Well obviously you get them somewhere else. So you find a drug dealer. Except street drugs are unsafe and often laced with other drugs. So people get hooked on other things or OD because they are basically getting blind bagged medication. Now they are drug abusers.

So they add more restrictions.

And this goes on forever.

I am lucky that my state has pot as a legal option for me because they refuse to give me real painkillers either, but the honest fact is what I am doing now is basically no different than self medicating on street drugs. A lot of addicts are people who were turned away from hospitals and that is an important thing to recognize.

There is also the issue that treating drug abuse as a problem instead of as a symptom is a huge factor in this. People who abuse drugs are often doing so for similar reason as those of us that acquire our medication legally: to try to medicate something.

So basically this “war on drugs” bs assumes “get rid of the drugs and you get rid of the problem” instead of addressing the problems that cause someone to turn to drugs or alcohol to begin with. This, of course, includes making the shit that’s abused more harder to get for people that require it for their health.

And it obviously isn’t always the case, but drug-abuse-as-self-medicating is common enough that sending someone to jail for drugs doesn’t make them magically stop using drugs, and making the drugs harder to obtain doesn’t really stop the people who are obtaining the illegally, it just stops the people who would be getting them legally.

I totally get being angry at people who abuse hard to obtain meds. I’m not going to pretend I never resent those people because it’s made life harder for me and for people I care about, but at the same time it’s largely the fault of a system that decided, despite evidence to the contrary, that solution is making shit harder to get your hands on.

Posted at 2:54 PM on Sep 16, 2014 with 83 notes Reblogged Via: bittersnurr OP: madeofpatterns
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#drugs #alcohol #rant #medical junk #I'm sorry this feel incoherent idk if it is or not because I am out of it again

posteriorsteak:

nonewillknow:

Thepersonwhomadeamistake:

sizvideos:

To the Boys Who May One Day Date My Daughter - Video

I fucking hate this bullshit so much.

Its misogynistic, archaic asscrap.

YOUR DAUGHTER IS NOT YOUR PROPERTY.

WHO SHE DATES OR SLEEPS WITH IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. THINKING OTHERWISE IS INCREDIBLY CREEPY AND INVASIVE.

 SHE HAS THE RIGHT TO MAKE HER OWN CHOICES AND MISTAKES.

YOU DON’T MAKE THE RULES. SHE IS NOT CATTLE. HER LOVE LIFE IS NOT YOUR CONTRACT. SHE MAKES THE RULES.

Not only are you advocating for a father to not care about his daughter, but you’re also misinterpreting the video horribly. He threatens the man that breaks his daughter’s heart. He threaten’s the man that hits her. That takes away her smile. He does not say she cannot love anyone, male or female, he says that they better love her. And if that’s not what a father is supposed to do, then I’ll be damned.

Maybe I’m wrong, I accept that, but please… please explain to me how fatherly love and care for his daughter is an archaic and misogynistic practice. Explain to me how allowing her to date who she loves, to do what she wants, and teaching her to not put up with abuse is wrong. I would love to hear it, she might not be his property, but he is her guardian, and guarding her happiness is no crime.

threatening to hurt someone who hasn’t done anything is a fucking red flag and if you can’t see that… well…

Let’s start off with the implication of “To the boys who may one day date my daughter… I have been training to kill you.” There is some other stuff in there, some stuff the gifset leaves out, but nothing in between “date my daughter” and “kill you” that implies the guy in question will hurt her. Phrasing is pretty key here, and the fact he leads off with that is scary as fuck.

He then goes on to talk about how threatening her future potential boyfriends are going to find him. Meeting the parents of someone you’re dating shouldn’t be scary. I get that people get nervous, I get that their are expectations in place, but he seems to be taking pride at the thought of scaring the shit out of these boys. A parent’s approach to meeting the people in their children’s life should not be threatening, it should be welcoming.

It takes until 1:30 for “break her heart” to even come up. And while he shortly follows up with “I have taught her that a man should never hit a woman.” it feels off that it doesn’t come up sooner because breaking someone’s heart and abuse don’t have to be the same thing.

He’s also really clowny about “her mother would like to add that you really shouldn’t hit anybody”. Like, no, that is a valid point. While people often talk about the power imbalance between men and women, it’s also really super fucking important to teach both of those points regardless. It’s also really important for the points made in the last two gifs, because it’s important for his daughter to remember that a female partner or a non-binary partner is also capable of abusing her and that she should speak out just the same regardless. It’s also important for her to remember that people shouldn’t hurt each other so she can be mindful that she doesn’t become an abuser.

So while it does feel like his heart is in the right place, his approach is unhealthy and scary. And while I hope this is largely exaggeration, it does raise some red flags and I can also see the gross, creepy, possessive side of this.

Posted at 10:28 AM on Sep 1, 2014 with 757,649 notes Reblogged Via: posteriorsteak OP: sizvideos
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#guns / #violence / #abuse / #rant #and maybe I'm taking personal issue with the 'daddy issues' bit because it feels like 'go prey on those broken girls'

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cannibalcoalition:

hannahcarbons:

coelasquid:

leighanief:

luvlysmilk:

delano-laramie:

Stay away from Fiverr. Promoting this sort of thing is NOT okay.

It’s ruining an industry.

Wtf wow

What bullshit. Yeah, don’t worry people, you’re getting so ripped off, paying an already moderate amount for something your company is young to use and advertise either every minute of everyday for the rest of it’s existence.

Jog like artists need to eat, or pay bills, or have a roof over their heads or anything. Not like they’re PEOPLE trying to make an honest living or anything.

Every time I see that picture on my dash I expect it to be a prank and that I’m going to scroll down and see a bunch of examples of their $5 logos that amount to crudely drawn dicks.

Jesus Christ.  What dark pit do you have to have crawled out of to think “let’s make a company whose primary purpose is to further undercut artists even more than they already are?”

Why pay a person what they’re actually worth when you can get an amateur to do it for a pat on the head? Why invest in a professional when anyone can do it? Design isn’t like a skill or anything. My four year old cousin can replicate the works of Piet Mondrian in Paint!

Oh, those artists. They think they’re people. 

I think when I first heard of this site, I assumed it’d be people offering things that are actually worth five dollars. (Like, with the visual arts thing, I could see a quick sketch being five dollars?)

Someone’s offering a 1,000 word story for $5.

People are offering to do several minutes of animation for $5.

There are various services on here that take hours of work that people are willing to offer for $5. This isn’t okay. People shouldn’t be willing to pay someone so little, especially for skilled work; people shouldn’t believe it’s okay to work for so little or, worse, that they need to work for so little in order to earn anything. Even if they don’t personally need the money, they are making it harder for the people that do to make the money that skilled work should earn.

Posted at 2:43 PM on Aug 6, 2014 with 11,954 notes Reblogged Via: homesteadilee OP: delano-laramie
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#art things #writing things #rant #I shouldn't be surprised but here we are

tylerssjoseph:

dont let tumblr make you think

  • school isnt important
  • its okay to be rude to your parents
  • its normal to hate everyone
  • self harm and suicide are romantic or great
  • being rude is cute
  • being a female who hits or yells at your boyfriend is woman empowerment
  • depression and other mental illnesses are beautiful
  • grades arent important
  • education isnt important
  • college isnt important
  • smoking is cool
  • drugs are cool
  • If the person has a different career path in mind, it’s not. (Like, one that requires training, not something unrealistic like “I want to be famous.”)
  • If your parents were actually awful to you and you don’t live with them, I’d say it’s pretty okay. If my father got into contact with me I’d be a major asshole to him and he’d deserve it.
  • It’s not “normal” but it’s not an uncommon feeling. And generally even people who say they hate everyone don’t actually hate everyone.
  • But if you do it, it’s also not something you should be ashamed of. Seek help when you need it, but yeah don’t glorify  it either.
  • I don’t think I’ve ever seen someone imply being rude is cute.
  • I’ve definitely never seen anyone say this. It sounds an aaawful lot like a bad straw feminist.
  • Not beautiful but, again, not something to be ashamed of having. If nothing else, people being allowed to talk about their mental health openly is super fucking important.
  • They aren’t for everyone. See my first point.
  • Education means a lot of different things for a lot of different people.
  • College isn’t for everyone. The fact that an entire generation + more had “go to college or you’re a loser” shoved into our heads is part of why the economy is shit right now. Not every job requires college and not every person is suited for college based jobs.
  • Do people still think that?
  • Do people still think that? Most addicts I’ve known have become addicts as a way to self medicate something else in their life that’s fucked up. It’s pretty easy to say “Don’t do drugs.” but drugs are frequently the symptom and treating them like the problem instead doesn’t do as well as treating the problem. (Which is almost never that someone convinced them that doing drugs would make them “cool”.)
Posted at 4:19 PM on Jun 30, 2014 with 193,510 notes Reblogged Via: saportasupporter OP: saportasupporter
#rant #is there some irony in that they completely disregarded grammar in a post like this? irony is the wrong word I think #drugs/ #sorry I just got frustrated with the 'college is important' thing again and kind of went downhill from there

To all the ouchy people out there

bittersnurr:

thelamedame:

thelamedame:

Please don’t feel like you need anyones permission to obtain or use mobility aids. No one can determine your needs or abilities better than you, and don’t hurt yourself for the sake of “toughing it out”

I used a cane for two years with my (wonderfully supportive) doctor saying it was unnecessary the entire time. However, i later received a diag that explained my constant nausea/lack of balance, and at that point his attitude changed from “you don’t need that” to “it’s good you’ve been using that when you needed it”

Word of warning though, improper use of mobility aids can cause soft tissue damage which may further exacerbate existing issues, so please get some education on proper usage and practice at home for a while before taking your show on the road

since I got another ask along the lines of “Am I allowed to use a cane?”

THERE ARE NO MOBILITY AID POLICE

AND ANYONE WHO TRIES TO TELL YOU YOU CAN’T HAVE OR DON’T NEED HELP CAN FUCK OFF

Please

This also goes for spoonies and ecv use; it took me a long time to just accept that I AM one of the people who needs to use one occasionally, and moreover I’ve never been in the store (here) where there weren’t bunches available, and I’ve def made more than a few friends/lovers/relatives/store managers hella uncomfortable and pissed off by collapsing in a store when i should have been using te damn cart

I think tumblr might be making the already existing ableist attitude that discourages people from using aids worse because of appropriation talk and people not understanding what it actually means :/

It doesn’t help that some people on tumblr DO say aids is appropriation I saw a post about stim toys being called that by someone before.Using things you need is not appropriation don’t worry about those jerks

Wow.

Disability is not a culture, that sort of thing doesn’t work the same way. At all. Anyone who’s taken to policing other people’s needs regarding their illness, disability, disorder, or misc health problems needs to consider what they’re trying to accomplish.

Especially important things to make a point about: A lot of aids and similar things exist to help manage symptoms. No one gets to decide that you need to have x disability to use y thing. There is so much overlap with disability that two completely different things can have a few extremely similar symptoms.

All of this plus the fact that many of us have trouble asking for any kind of accommodation already due to having it put in our heads that we’re being lazy or not trying hard enough or we don’t deserve help for whatever reason. All of this makes the people acting like you need to meet their checklist before you’re allowed to use a specific thing so much worse.

Posted at 8:56 PM on Jun 29, 2014 with 166 notes Reblogged Via: bittersnurr OP: thelamedame
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#rant #disability

nightworldlove:

revolutionariess:

ships u know are queerbaiting trash yet u fall for it. u fall for the breadcrumbs because ur so desperate. ur trash and the writers are trash but by god u will go down with that ship

   I already knew I was going down with this ship from the beginning.

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   But don’t call me trash for liking what I like and shipping the ships that I ship. Can’t you just let me enjoy being on my pink cloud of Korrasami? Because I am pretty damn sure that this is (also) about that.

   And I’m a trash writer too? If you read all my writings, and I mean literally all my writings, then come back to me. I think it’s quite rude, to say the least, to call people that without even knowing them.

   I’m fucking gay myself, okay? And I would love for Korrasami to be canon, is that really so bad? I think there are worse things in the world, you know? Like people who are being threatened day in, day out. Who are being bashed regularly, who have to live in fear, every single day and fear for their lives. People who are being kicked out of their homes and families for being who they are and expressing themselves.

   And you are calling ME trash…?! What the fuck is wrong with you?

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I don’t want to assume intent or anything, but let’s look at op’s tags:

[sad violin song in the distance]     it’s just so paTHETIC BECAUSE YOU KNOW     YOU ARE AWARE WHAT THEY ARE DOING     YOU KNOW THE WHOLE ~BROMANCE EMPHASIS IS JUST TO ENSURE THE HETERO REMAINS INTACT     BUT     YOU WANT IT     YOU WANT TO PRETEND     EVEN FOR A MOMENT     THAT THESE TWO PPL CAN BE IN LOVE WITHOUT JUDGEMENT     AND THAT YOU CAN TOO     [sobs]    

I mostly want to point out the last one first because in general the tone I get from all of it, but especially with [sobs] at the end is that they are including themselves in all this. “You’re accepting breadcrums because you’re desperate.” is an unfortunate reality a lot of us face with these things, and it’s something that makes plenty of us feel awful at times. (If it doesn’t make you feel awful, I’m happy for you, and kind of jealous honestly.)

I don’t know why you think this is aimed at any one ship like even partially. Idk if op had anything specific in mind, and maybe every individual who reblogged it has specific things in mind but, again, this is a thing that just about every lgbt+ person finds them doing with countless characters in countless shows, games, movies, comics, and books. It feels a lot less like a dig at any one ship or the shippers of those ships, and a lot more at the writers who have us clinging to this crap.

I’m also a bit curious why you think they were talking about your writing… unless you queerbait in your writing? They were talking about the writers who do that, not every writer ever. Not even every writer who is into pairings that are basically formed from queerbaiting — because, again, most lgbt+ people get into pairings like that at some point because we have so little other choice.

Posted at 6:12 PM on Jun 29, 2014 with 14,623 notes Reblogged Via: nightworldlove OP: tobiasfitzosborness
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#rant #representation

1ocus:

peent:

abrotion:

abrotion:

abrotion:

do u really think i give a fuck about your straight person opinion

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[straight person voice] I BOUGHT A FUCKING RAINBOW PACKPACK TO SUPPORT YOU GUYS

I am forever baffled by “We could easily be assholes and yell slurs at you.” because EASILY? There are people who find it easier to be aggressively bigoted than to treat people with respect and some of those people consider themselves our allies?!?

I mean because I get why people can be the kind of bigoted that’s less… obvious. Because most microagressions and shit are coded into society to the point that most of us can go a long time without realizing we’re doing/saying something wrong until someone says something or we read a thing on the subject. Those habits are hard to unlearn, and generally the less shitty people will try to watch that about themselves.

But how can someone think they could be easily yelling slurs at someone and then try to claim they are that person’s ally? That is like, “I could be verbally harassing you and sometimes tripping you when you walk down the hall. Be grateful I’m not doing that.”

?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Posted at 4:07 PM on Jun 29, 2014 with 56,606 notes Reblogged Via: 1ocus OP: grlband
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#homophobia #rant

Why would you go into a tag for something that had a new episode/chapter/whatever released before being caught up on said thing unless you are okay with spoilers?

Don’t yell at people for posting things in a tag when you went into that tag knowing there was new material.

And for the love of fuck don’t take your anger out on the rest of the tag with irrelevant spam. I’ve seen someone do that before. You are not entitled to a spoiler free tag. Call it polite to not spoil things if you want, but other people don’t work on your schedule. Just as you can unfollow someone to avoid spoilers, it’s only logical to not go into a tag for a thing you are not caught up on.

Posted at 4:57 PM on Jun 18, 2014 with 2 notes #fandom #rant #I am too tired to actually do anything I just had to get this out of my system for things that don't even concern me #nap time for me I'll attempt to dash later

bittersnurr:

autasha:

bittersnurr:

fatsexybitch:

autasha:

steve rogers was an irish-american with disabilities growing up in 30s new york in a gay neighborhood and some people actually believe he would be conservative

What disabilities did steve rogers have pre-super serum?

Did the new movie give him a new backstory?

all I have seen is basically a chronic illness list of like asthma for example and a couple other things that looked more like speculation based on him having lots of regular person sorts of illnesses.

which could be POTENTIALLY disabling but having asthma doesn’t make you disabled automatically. Just ask my gym teacher who loved to throw around her asthma diagnosis to discredit my gym excuse notes (i was misdiagnosed with it in highschool)

also I am really not that comfortable with all the posts I’ve seen acting like A CURE STORY is representation, because it really doesn’t count. It’s like claiming characters who got rebooted straight/white/skinny/abled etc. still count.

I also am not a fan of the “steve is clearly an ally because he lived in gay neighborhood” considering I am from a tiny town which is so pro gay you could have public gay makeouts at my highschool (in 2002) without anything bad happening and according to mom literally every adult I knew other than her was openly homophobic. Including the parents of some of the kids doing the making out. One of my friends got kicked out of her house even.

And I know lots of progressive people from the deep south bible belt area sooooo.

Not saying steve isn’t an ally or whatever just that this argument is kind of no.

steve also has heart trouble and high blood pressure, anemia, anxiety, stomach problems, scoliosis, astigmatism (poor eyesight), hearing impairment, and according to some sources joint hypermobility; any of these things might be considered disabilities and certainly would have been in the thirties. 

additionally this post isn’t strictly about representation. i agree that the portrayal of steve rogers being cured of his physical disabilities is shitty but that’s literally not what i was talking about

I have bolded things you named that I have personally been diagnosed with and have been symptomatic of since childhood

I didn’t identify as disabled until 3 years ago

My point was chronic illness ≠ disability automatically. Disability isn’t just a state of being it’s an identity and a lot of people with those conditions don’t identify as disabled.

I also did not give a single fuck about other disabled people for most of my life because I didn’t think I was disabled and was taught I was better than disabled people. this list of conditions happen to be ones I was told were not bad or disabling for most of my life so I was told I was “normal”.

Actually I would say I was possibly worse than average with ableism because if I was “normal” I assumed equally impaired people to be “normal” too and therefore lazy.

So my point is if you are using “was disabled” as evidence of someone’s political opinions you should probably have something saying they identify that way because being a cripple didn’t mean shit when everyone told me I wasn’t.

internalized isms are like that

My point is also, none of these things make you automatically not conservative.

Conservative is not one strict kind of person anyway. Almost every liberal I know offline in my shiny liberal state of Massachusetts is extremely ableist to the point I am afraid to ever discuss personal things around me and I know self identified conservative republicans who are feminists who are careful to include even disabled and transwomen who get left out usually.

So that is the problem I have with the post. It’s not against the characterization as much as the label assignment based on an argument that assumes that experiencing x always = y.
I am sure Steve would be very pro health care access and reform and against denying jobs to disabled people, but this largely has to do with his personality not just the fact he was chronically ill as a kid. He’s just that sort of guy he likes to help people.
A lot of people get better and turn around and act like everyone who didn’t/can’t just didn’t try. A lesser man could easily say he deserved to get better because he was willing to try a dangerous treatment the same way I have doctors regularly shame me for not wanting to try medication closely related to ones I am dangerously allergic to.His environment might contribute but yeah I’m sure some people who grew up the same way are awful bigoted assholes.

This is important. The post has always kind of felt really iffy to me, and I think Kat finally helped me understand why.

Steve isn’t how he is because of where or how he grew up. It’s not that those things had no influence on who he is now, it’s that people are made up of many different things and someone else who went through all of that could actually still be an asshole and a massive conservative.

Your life experiences are part of what shape you, but they’re not all of it. People are not exempt from being bigots just because they face some oppressions, and claiming they are is what causes some people to claim they cannot have x bigotry because they are part of y marginalized group.

So while it’s silly that people project completely ooc political beliefs on him, it’s not silly because of the things he grew up with or around, it’s silly because it ignores who he is.

Posted at 2:55 PM on Jun 16, 2014 with 106,084 notes Reblogged Via: bittersnurr OP: autasha
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#disability #steve rogers #marvel #rant

familiaralien:

hobboxcorner:

familiaralien:

plastic-knives-and-forks:

this whole thing on tumblr about self diagnosis being ok doesnt sit right with me

like, if you seriously think that you have a certain disease/disorder and arent just doing it to be ‘quirky and different’/get oppression/unprivilege points/etc and you have read extensively on that and the symptoms fit and all, then fine, but please please please talk to a doctor about this and get professional opinions, and try get this verified- no matter what you think, you are not above medical professionals and what they have to say and offer, despite some of them being assholes. especially if you’re gonna try treatments or medications or something potentially dangerous.

dont be fucking stupid and dont let tumblr be your moral/medical compass too.

On the other side of the coin though sometimes I see someone that clearly has X wrong with them but gets super hostile ridiculous replies and treatment because they haven’t gotten officially diagnosed yet. Often this is done in the absence of evaluating class, location or even how the health problem itself could effect getting diagnosed.

So yeah just reblogging with that because I’ve seen people take “people need to see a doctor before being sure they have X” as “ATTACK PEOPLE THAT SAY THEY HAVE X WITHOUT GETTING A PIECE OF PAPER FROM A DOCTOR CUZ THEY MUST BE DOING IT FOR ATTENTION!”.

I think as much as people should avoid saying they know for sure they have x, it’s important to keep in mind that diagnosis and doctor’s aren’t the be-all-end-all when it comes to mental health.  Diagnoses can be wrong, and a lot of people, especially minors, may not have reliable access to mental health care.  In many cases self-diagnosis can be the first step to getting a professional diagnosis, and/or can help a person figure out ways to help themselves and manage their issues in the mean time.

yep. Heck one reason I’m switching psychiatric doctors is because I’m pretty sure my mental health diagnosis which I have one is horribly off and my doctor was making me feel like shit for doubting it was accurate. Doctors are humans, not only do they make mistakes but they can be egotistical and even ableist, sexist and racist sometimes. So even if they went to a doctor and didn’t get a diagnosis that’s no indication they aren’t sick.

Also some illnesses need no diagnosis to know there’s something wrong (hence stating you can just know by talking to someone they’re not healthy). In the case of physical ailments for me at least (because one chronic illness isn’t enough!) I only recently got a diagnosis on my back/leg problems but given I have severe leg spasm almost every day and have had for almost 2 years now that cause actual partial paralysis of my left foot and make me leg seize up in place it was safe to say “yes, something is up here”. Healthy legs don’t do what mine do, it was only a matter of figuring out exactly what combinations of body structure failures were causing it to happen.

This is always such a touchy subject, but it’s really important to keep in mind that there are a lot of people who self diagnosis who can’t get a formal diagnosis. Minors whose parents refuse to let them see a mental health professional are a wonderful example of this, and there are people who can’t afford to see someone or have no one available in their area taking patients. There are multiple factors that can lead to someone not getting a professional diagnosis aside from thinking that Tumblr is a better source of information than a professional.

There is also the point that was made up there ^ about how sometimes a psychiatric diagnosis can be wrong. As someone who had the “depression” label heaped on me at a young age without learning until many years later that my depression was secondary to the untreated adhd — which was diagnosed professional, just many years later — I am painfully aware that professionals can actually be very, very wrong. If you go into treatment for the wrong thing you likely just end up in a cycle of failing to get better.

Then there are people who may have a disorder but are mostly okay managing on their own. Said people seem to self diagnosis to help them find people with similar experiences to help them find ways to cope with minor speed bumps. If you don’t need medication or therapy, there really isn’t a need to get a formal diagnosis. (Especially if there is a financial or other issue that would cause more trouble than said diagnosis is worth to you personally.)

Most people who self diagnose aren’t basing it off of internet quizzes or just things they’ve read on Tumblr. Most people won’t even bring it up just for the sake of saying it, so I really doubt they’re trying to get “oppression points” or whatever nonsense we are calling that now. I would recommend seeing a professional if it’s in your means and if you feel you need the help, but if you just want occasional advice to get through smaller rough patches, I completely understand why some people don’t actively seek treatment or official diagnosis. Even as someone who has been in treatment for over half my life I’ve learned to accept why some other people are not even if they also have psychiatric or similar issues of their own.

Posted at 1:03 PM on Jun 16, 2014 with 16 notes Reblogged Via: notsofamiliaralien-deactivated2 OP: plastic-knives-and-forks
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#mental health #rant

crezelle:

al-likestodoodle:

Sensory Overload and how to cope.

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This is a blessing. I’ve had panic attacks in crowded places because all those people moving around is over stimulating. People usually assume I just don’t like people, but in actuality I just can’t handle being around so many people at once.

I`m lucky in the fact I just get hyper when overstimulated, and socially derp out. I become much more prone to saying stupid things that bypass my “filter” when in these situations. Mostly happens when I have a lot of friends around, at conventions or shows, ect.

I think there is an important piece missing in all of this: This seems to be assuming “you” are neurotypical in situations where you are around another person doing this despite the fact that we tend to not gravitate toward neurotypical people. Chances are, a lot of people who would be faced with someone else putting up with this have similar issues.

I don’t know how people with a completely different background deal with aggression, but if someone was aggressive to me — regardless of reason or whether or not it was even my fault — I would likely shut down and end up in a similar situation myself.

If someone was self harming in front of me, that would also be triggering as all fuck. If it were someone I knew and cared about I would probably try to talk to them to distract them. I know everyone is different, but if I am hurting myself in front of other people, I probably need to be talked down, not ignored. If I wanted no one to stop me, I’d be doing it away from people.

Just as you’d want someone to respect you having an issue with over stimulation, you need to try to respect that other people around you may have similar issues. I know there is a lot out of your control when you’re going through this, but don’t expect anyone else to put their own emotional health at risk for your sake. So if someone cannot comply with all of this, understand they may be similar to you and don’t hold it against them.

Posted at 10:33 PM on Jun 14, 2014 with 27,582 notes Reblogged Via: ryuuen OP: recovery-community
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#self harm #self injury #rant #I am accidentally in this place myself right now #so you may want to not unfold this if savior folded it down because... haha I don't want anyone else to feel how I do right now